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Extras For Ceremonies
Vow Renewal
Wine Ceremony
Hands Ceremony
Rose Ceremony
Rose Ceremony (for mothers)
Candle Lighting
Wine Ceremony
And....
Jumping The Broom
Hand Fasting
Special Readings
Family Involvement
Vow Renewal Ceremony
Let this be a day of gladness, thanksgiving, possibility, and good fortune for all of
us, but especially for (Groom) and (Bride), who are here to renew and celebrate
their love. Just as spring blossoms anew after a harsh winter, so must spouses
renew their love for each other in their daily lives. Today marks the ________
anniversary of your marriage vows and today you renew your vows and love as
husband and wife. Today begins the new spring of this year's love. So may it be
renewed each day in your hearts.
Favorite Poem:
(_________________________________)
Vows:
Groom and Bride, have you come here freely and with the intention of a renewal of
your marriage vows?
(Both answer, We Have)
Will you continue to love and honor each other as man and wife every day as you
have promised to do?
(Both answer, We Do.)
Will you love, comfort and honor, keeping each other forever more?
(Both answer, We Will)
Groom do you again take Bride as your wife, will you continue to be faithful to her
in tender love and honor, offering encouragement and companionship and will you
continue to live with her and cherish her?
(Groom answers I do)
Bride do you again take Groom as your husband, will you continue to be faithful to
him in tender love and honor, offering encouragement and companionship and will
you continue to live with him and cherish him?
(Bride answers I do)
Rings:
The wedding ring is the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual bond,
which unites two loyal hearts in endless love. These circles are designed without
an ending, so they speak of eternity. May the incorruptible substance of these
rings represent a love glowing with increasing luster through the years and may all
good and holy beings upon this Earth bless these rings which you give to each
other as the sign of your love, trust, faithfulness, respect and devotion.
Groom, repeat after me...
With this ring, I continue my promise to you that I will be your faithful partner in life,
Bride, repeat after me...
With this ring, I continue my promise to you that I will be your faithful partner in life,
Pronouncement:
May your joys be sweet as spring flowers that grow
As bright as a fire when winter winds blow
As countless as leaves that float down in the fall
As serene as the Love that keeps watch over all.
I now pronounce that you have today reaffirmed your life’s commitment to one
another, go forth in love and friendship for the rest of the days of your lives.
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Wine Ceremony
Written by J.K Schwehm
Red wine and white wine in a small carafe is placed next to an empty carafe with a
wineglass on a small table near the couple. The center carafe, called the Marriage
Carafe is sometimes a bit larger than the two outside "individual" carafes.
Alternatively there would be 2 carafes and one empty glass. If the ‘individual
carafes’ are carried in the Wedding Processional the Marriage Carafe or Wine
Glass is already sitting on the table and only the two individual filled carafes are
carried forth.
When the Wine Ceremony is done – music can be played or there can be no
music at all.
The Wine Ceremony can be divided into two parts. The presenting of the two
individual carafes filled with red and white wine to be placed on the table near the
larger empty carafe during the processional. Then part two the pouring of the two
separate wines into the empty carafe and drinking the combined wine by the
wedding couple. Part two follows the exchange of vows. The ceremony can be one
part with the wine already sitting on the table and the couple just combining the
wines before drinking them.
Part One can take place during the Wedding Processional with one of the
attendants on both sides carrying the red or white carafe and placing it on the
table. Or a bit earlier the parents of the couples come forward with a bottle of wine
and fill the smaller carafes already on the table just before they are seated and
then the wedding processional starts.
Ceremony:
After the vows the Officiant announces " We Now Shall Perform the Wine
Ceremony" The couple goes to the table and each takes the individual carafe and
pours some wine into the larger carafe. The groom then takes the larger filled
carafe with the combined wine and pours some in a glass for the bride. The bride
then takes the Larger Carafe with the combined wines and pours some into a
glass for the Groom. He may now toast his bride with, " Now Our Lives Are One"
and drinks from the glass she responds the same. They place the wineglass back
and face back to the officiant. Who states.
‘This Ceremony represents the two individual lives are now combined like the two
wines into one single life. The drinking of the combined wine signifies the
commitment you now make to live your lives as one family. May you remember this
day of commitment you have sealed with drinking of the new wine joining your lives
as one."
He may also announce that immediately after the service others may drink the new
wine of their commitment to one life if they so desire. Or Rose wine served at the
reception to mark this ceremony. Originally a French wine country tradition in
joining two vineyard owners in marriage
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Hands Ceremony
[Bride's name], please face [Groom's name], and hold his hands,
palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love,
that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the
days of his life.
These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your
future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.
These are the hands you will place with expectant joy against your stomach, until
he too, feels his child stir within you.
These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he
holds your baby for the first time.
These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family
These are that hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the
years, for a lifetime of happiness.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears
of sorrow and tears of joy
These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or
grief wrack your mind.
These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they
raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with his
overwhelming love and desire for you.
[Groom's name], please hold [Bride's name]’s hands, palms up, where you may
see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, smooth,
young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she pledges
her love and commitment to you all the days of her life.
These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them
through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and
knowing when it is time to let go
These are the hands that will massage tension from you neck and back in the
evenings after you’ve both had a long hard day.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times
These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when
you are grieving.
They are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the
years, for a lifetime of happiness.
These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope, each time
she tells you that you are to have another child, that together you have created a
new life.
These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase
down your dreams. Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.
Minister:
God, bless these hands that you see before you this day. May they always be
held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress
and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture
each other in their wondrous love. Help these hands to continue building a
relationship founded in your grace, rich in caring, and devoted in reaching for your
perfection. May [Groom's name] and [Bride's name] see their four hands as
healer, protector, shelter and guide. We ask this in your name, Amen.
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Rose Ceremony
In the Rose Ceremony, the Bride and Groom give each other a Rose. Two roses
are all that is necessary. The Rose Ceremony is placed at the end of the
ceremony just before being pronounced husband and wife. In the old language of
flowers, a single red rose always meant "I love you". The Rose ceremony gives
recognition to the new and most honorable title of "Husband and Wife".
"Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings -
which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect;
and a public showing of your commitment to each other.
You now have what remains the most honorable title which may exist between a
man and a woman - the title of "husband" and "wife." For your first gift as husband
and wife, that gift will be a single rose.
In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love and a single rose always
meant only one thing - it meant the words "I love you." So it is appropriate that for
your first gift - as husband and wife - that gift would be a single rose.
Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife. In some ways it seems like
you have not done anything at all. Just a moment ago you were holding one small
rose - and now you are holding one small rose. In some ways, a marriage
ceremony is like this. In some ways, tomorrow is going to seem no different than
yesterday. But in fact today, just now, you both have given and received one of the
most valuable and precious gifts of life - one I hope you always remember - the gift
of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.
_________ and _____________, I would ask that where ever you make your
home in the future - whether it be a large and elegant home - or a small and
graceful one - that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on
each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that
spot both as a recommitment to your marriage - and a recommitment that THIS will
be a marriage based upon love.
In every marriage there are times where it is difficult to find the right words. It is
easiest to hurt who we most love. It is easiest to be most hurt by who we most love.
It might be difficult some time to words to say "I am sorry" or "I forgive you"; "I need
you" or "I am hurting". If this should happen, if you simply can not find these
words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected - for that rose
than says what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all
other words.
That rose says the words: "I still love you." The other should accept this rose for
the words which can not be found, and remember the love and hope that you both
share today.
__________ and ________, if there is anything you remember of this marriage
ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which
can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure."
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Rose Ceremony (for mothers)
Marriage is a coming together of two lives, and a celebration of the love of two
people. But it is more. The love that you feel for one another is the flowering of a
seed your mothers planted in your hearts many years ago. When you were first
born, you were a bundle of diapers and tears, and your mothers lost sleep caring
for you. Their love for you has brought them great happiness and great
challenges, and their love did not diminish as they met these challenges. That is
the great lesson you can bring into your marriage. As you embrace one another in
your love, so too do you embrace the families which have been brought together
on this happy occasion. As a token of your gratitude for your families, I would like
to ask you to offer these symbols of eternal love, these roses, to your mothers.
(Both bride and groom can hand the roses to each mother together, offering the
mothers kisses if they wish.)
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Candle Lighting
____________________ and _____________________, the two separate
candles symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of
friends. I ask that each of you take one of the lit candles and that together you
light the center candle.
The individual candles represent your lives before today. Lighting the center
candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one light, and represents
the joining together of your two families and sets of friends to one.
Please contact info@nycido.com for information on other ceremony options.
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Vow Renewal
Wine Ceremony
Hands Ceremony
Rose Ceremony
Rose Ceremony (for mothers)
Candle Lighting
Wine Ceremony
And....
Jumping The Broom
Hand Fasting
Special Readings
Family Involvement
Vow Renewal Ceremony
Let this be a day of gladness, thanksgiving, possibility, and good fortune for all of
us, but especially for (Groom) and (Bride), who are here to renew and celebrate
their love. Just as spring blossoms anew after a harsh winter, so must spouses
renew their love for each other in their daily lives. Today marks the ________
anniversary of your marriage vows and today you renew your vows and love as
husband and wife. Today begins the new spring of this year's love. So may it be
renewed each day in your hearts.
Favorite Poem:
(_________________________________)
Vows:
Groom and Bride, have you come here freely and with the intention of a renewal of
your marriage vows?
(Both answer, We Have)
Will you continue to love and honor each other as man and wife every day as you
have promised to do?
(Both answer, We Do.)
Will you love, comfort and honor, keeping each other forever more?
(Both answer, We Will)
Groom do you again take Bride as your wife, will you continue to be faithful to her
in tender love and honor, offering encouragement and companionship and will you
continue to live with her and cherish her?
(Groom answers I do)
Bride do you again take Groom as your husband, will you continue to be faithful to
him in tender love and honor, offering encouragement and companionship and will
you continue to live with him and cherish him?
(Bride answers I do)
Rings:
The wedding ring is the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual bond,
which unites two loyal hearts in endless love. These circles are designed without
an ending, so they speak of eternity. May the incorruptible substance of these
rings represent a love glowing with increasing luster through the years and may all
good and holy beings upon this Earth bless these rings which you give to each
other as the sign of your love, trust, faithfulness, respect and devotion.
Groom, repeat after me...
With this ring, I continue my promise to you that I will be your faithful partner in life,
Bride, repeat after me...
With this ring, I continue my promise to you that I will be your faithful partner in life,
Pronouncement:
May your joys be sweet as spring flowers that grow
As bright as a fire when winter winds blow
As countless as leaves that float down in the fall
As serene as the Love that keeps watch over all.
I now pronounce that you have today reaffirmed your life’s commitment to one
another, go forth in love and friendship for the rest of the days of your lives.
(back to top)
≈
Wine Ceremony
Written by J.K Schwehm
Red wine and white wine in a small carafe is placed next to an empty carafe with a
wineglass on a small table near the couple. The center carafe, called the Marriage
Carafe is sometimes a bit larger than the two outside "individual" carafes.
Alternatively there would be 2 carafes and one empty glass. If the ‘individual
carafes’ are carried in the Wedding Processional the Marriage Carafe or Wine
Glass is already sitting on the table and only the two individual filled carafes are
carried forth.
When the Wine Ceremony is done – music can be played or there can be no
music at all.
The Wine Ceremony can be divided into two parts. The presenting of the two
individual carafes filled with red and white wine to be placed on the table near the
larger empty carafe during the processional. Then part two the pouring of the two
separate wines into the empty carafe and drinking the combined wine by the
wedding couple. Part two follows the exchange of vows. The ceremony can be one
part with the wine already sitting on the table and the couple just combining the
wines before drinking them.
Part One can take place during the Wedding Processional with one of the
attendants on both sides carrying the red or white carafe and placing it on the
table. Or a bit earlier the parents of the couples come forward with a bottle of wine
and fill the smaller carafes already on the table just before they are seated and
then the wedding processional starts.
Ceremony:
After the vows the Officiant announces " We Now Shall Perform the Wine
Ceremony" The couple goes to the table and each takes the individual carafe and
pours some wine into the larger carafe. The groom then takes the larger filled
carafe with the combined wine and pours some in a glass for the bride. The bride
then takes the Larger Carafe with the combined wines and pours some into a
glass for the Groom. He may now toast his bride with, " Now Our Lives Are One"
and drinks from the glass she responds the same. They place the wineglass back
and face back to the officiant. Who states.
‘This Ceremony represents the two individual lives are now combined like the two
wines into one single life. The drinking of the combined wine signifies the
commitment you now make to live your lives as one family. May you remember this
day of commitment you have sealed with drinking of the new wine joining your lives
as one."
He may also announce that immediately after the service others may drink the new
wine of their commitment to one life if they so desire. Or Rose wine served at the
reception to mark this ceremony. Originally a French wine country tradition in
joining two vineyard owners in marriage
(back to top)
≈
Hands Ceremony
[Bride's name], please face [Groom's name], and hold his hands,
palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love,
that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to love you all the
days of his life.
These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your
future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.
These are the hands you will place with expectant joy against your stomach, until
he too, feels his child stir within you.
These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he
holds your baby for the first time.
These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family
These are that hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the
years, for a lifetime of happiness.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears
of sorrow and tears of joy
These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or
grief wrack your mind.
These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they
raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with his
overwhelming love and desire for you.
[Groom's name], please hold [Bride's name]’s hands, palms up, where you may
see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, smooth,
young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she pledges
her love and commitment to you all the days of her life.
These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them
through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, and
knowing when it is time to let go
These are the hands that will massage tension from you neck and back in the
evenings after you’ve both had a long hard day.
These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times
These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when
you are grieving.
They are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the
years, for a lifetime of happiness.
These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope, each time
she tells you that you are to have another child, that together you have created a
new life.
These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase
down your dreams. Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.
Minister:
God, bless these hands that you see before you this day. May they always be
held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress
and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture
each other in their wondrous love. Help these hands to continue building a
relationship founded in your grace, rich in caring, and devoted in reaching for your
perfection. May [Groom's name] and [Bride's name] see their four hands as
healer, protector, shelter and guide. We ask this in your name, Amen.
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Rose Ceremony
In the Rose Ceremony, the Bride and Groom give each other a Rose. Two roses
are all that is necessary. The Rose Ceremony is placed at the end of the
ceremony just before being pronounced husband and wife. In the old language of
flowers, a single red rose always meant "I love you". The Rose ceremony gives
recognition to the new and most honorable title of "Husband and Wife".
"Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings -
which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect;
and a public showing of your commitment to each other.
You now have what remains the most honorable title which may exist between a
man and a woman - the title of "husband" and "wife." For your first gift as husband
and wife, that gift will be a single rose.
In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love and a single rose always
meant only one thing - it meant the words "I love you." So it is appropriate that for
your first gift - as husband and wife - that gift would be a single rose.
Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife. In some ways it seems like
you have not done anything at all. Just a moment ago you were holding one small
rose - and now you are holding one small rose. In some ways, a marriage
ceremony is like this. In some ways, tomorrow is going to seem no different than
yesterday. But in fact today, just now, you both have given and received one of the
most valuable and precious gifts of life - one I hope you always remember - the gift
of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.
_________ and _____________, I would ask that where ever you make your
home in the future - whether it be a large and elegant home - or a small and
graceful one - that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on
each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that
spot both as a recommitment to your marriage - and a recommitment that THIS will
be a marriage based upon love.
In every marriage there are times where it is difficult to find the right words. It is
easiest to hurt who we most love. It is easiest to be most hurt by who we most love.
It might be difficult some time to words to say "I am sorry" or "I forgive you"; "I need
you" or "I am hurting". If this should happen, if you simply can not find these
words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected - for that rose
than says what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all
other words.
That rose says the words: "I still love you." The other should accept this rose for
the words which can not be found, and remember the love and hope that you both
share today.
__________ and ________, if there is anything you remember of this marriage
ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which
can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure."
(back to top)
≈
Rose Ceremony (for mothers)
Marriage is a coming together of two lives, and a celebration of the love of two
people. But it is more. The love that you feel for one another is the flowering of a
seed your mothers planted in your hearts many years ago. When you were first
born, you were a bundle of diapers and tears, and your mothers lost sleep caring
for you. Their love for you has brought them great happiness and great
challenges, and their love did not diminish as they met these challenges. That is
the great lesson you can bring into your marriage. As you embrace one another in
your love, so too do you embrace the families which have been brought together
on this happy occasion. As a token of your gratitude for your families, I would like
to ask you to offer these symbols of eternal love, these roses, to your mothers.
(Both bride and groom can hand the roses to each mother together, offering the
mothers kisses if they wish.)
(back to top)
≈
Candle Lighting
____________________ and _____________________, the two separate
candles symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of
friends. I ask that each of you take one of the lit candles and that together you
light the center candle.
The individual candles represent your lives before today. Lighting the center
candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one light, and represents
the joining together of your two families and sets of friends to one.
Please contact info@nycido.com for information on other ceremony options.
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| Vivian and Ruddy Bayridge Manor 2006 |
Call: 917-620-3014
Email: info@nycido.com
Email: info@nycido.com
Gamal and Denise Walker 2005